I joined myspace back in March 06. I heard about it from all sorts of people so I decided to join to socialize with other humans throughout the world & to share who I am with others.
When I created my profile, I specifically stated that I was on here for networking/friends only. I did not select dating/romance as an option because although I'm single in L.A., I honestly have way too many suitors out here. I'm approached almost daily and mostly have to fend men off of me unless I happen to run across someone that peaks my interest. 
Most men are pretty aggressive!!! But there's no way I could even go out with everybody or make them my lover if sex is their ultimate objective . For one, it ain't that much time in the world and for two, what quality woman would want to sleep with all kinds of men?
At this point in my life, I'm focused on building my businesses--romance is a low priority on my list right now. I don't have much time as it is plus I haven't met any man in years who I would want to permanently settle down with.
With that being said, my life consists of me constantly being in the mix in the entertainment field; working hard, creating, networking at parties & events, going to meetings, and most importantly raising my son. If there's any time left then I make time to date. And the men I've dated or the lovers I've had, I came aross through my social circle where I initially met them face to face.
Anyway, since I first became a myspace member, I've been hit on ALOT on here even though I've expressed I'm not on here for that. I barely have time to date the guys I meet in person so how could I go out with everyone of my myspace friends who wants to hook up with me after they've viewed my profile online?
Well, against my initial intentions, I was open-minded enough to get to know some of my male friends in person after talking with them for awhile. I admit I am a natural flirt so sometimes I get myself in trouble flirting! lol Anyway, I reasoned to myself what's the difference between meeting someone in person vs. someone online? So I chose to go out with them.
To date, I've been a member for 19 mos. & I have gone out on at least one date with 9 different friends, became a short-lived girlfriend to 2 of them, and had a one-night stand with one. Calculating the mathematics, that averages to me going out with a man on myspace about once every 2 months. Add that on top of the men I date in L.A. and that equals to alot of time spent on dating that I really don't have. I'm good out here, I don't need alot of dates to suck up more of my time. I also have to make time for myself.
Well, the myspace dates--flings--whatever you want to call them, unregrettably have been fun for the most part & interesting for the rest but it's unrealistic to expect me to be available to physically hang out with all of you. I do the best I can to fit this form of dating into my schedule but I may not EVER get around to going out with most of you. I may possibly go out with some of you from myspace in the future. I don't know, I'm open to finding love wherever I find it but I'm really not looking for it on here.
To my friends who send me messages asking why we haven't gone out yet or when are we going out next?...My response is maybe if I have an open window I will but my schedule is pretty swamped right now. And please understand I'm only one woman, I can't be everywhere and do everything at the same time.
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